What’s more, making a playful reference to something on her profile can let her know that the two of you have common interests — you have to know about something to make a funny reference to it. This communicates confidence while also creating sexual tension between the two of you.Move on to Be Challenging Just being funny and having things in common with her isn’t going to keep you out of the friend zone, however. That something else that you need right away when you flirt online is being challenging. It also sets you apart — how many men do you think are consciously pushing back a little?As long as you keep a few points in mind, you won’t have any trouble making it clear there are worlds of meaning behind every online message you send a guy.

Here are four ways to flirt with flair and class – whether online or off – so you can get that date, and the next: 1. Have you ever noticed that we use compliments to connect with other women? (Ahem: note the word “sincere.”) You can tell him he has nice eyes, and he’ll appreciate it.

But that won’t go so far as more substantive compliments.

The Internet is still very much a typed medium, and the nature of flat, expressionless text makes it difficult to engage in the light, winking, double-entendre filled practice of flirting.

Good flirting relies on toying with the meaning behind words, and conveying precise meaning through flat, expressionless text seems to render online flirting impossible.

Move Things to Social Media Thought you met on a dating site, it’s a good idea to move things over to a social networking site like Facebook as soon as you can. Because who a woman is on a dating site isn’t necessarily who she is in real life.

You’re going to get a much more accurate picture of who she is on Facebook or Twitter than you are on a dating website.

A confident, grownup good guy needs to hear more than you think he’s cute or you like his dog.

Tell him you agree with something he says; ask his opinion; let him suggest a book or restaurant; tell him you appreciate his jokes or that his business sounds interesting. I recommend that my clients ask and answer this question out loud: What do I like about him and what do I want him to know about me?

Of course, flirting online isn’t actually impossible.